1. Intro

I have been enjoying a relationship with a very masculine man. He can be a lot of fun with an upbeat personality. He can also be serious and to the point. For example, he seems to like to be the boss. This is a somewhat new type of experience for me, as in previous relationships I have held a lot of strength one way or another. This man is very quick to slice to the point and keep things on track. I may carry the conversation in different directions but he always goes back to the main point until he hears my response.

2. Men' strength

This man's ways tend to leave me breathless. I like his strength. Yet sometimes I find myself feeling like a kid. Or said another way, like I feel I am put in my place. That place feels like a traditional route. It is far from the independent woman I have been. That traditional place brings me a different kind of comfort and one that I feel I need and have been missing. To better explain it, I feel as though I am cared for and respected and treated like a woman who is in the company of a strong, knowing man.

3. Masculine strength

This man is quick to demonstrate that he will use his masculine strength as he wishes and when he wishes. This is both physical and mental strength. If I try to kiddingly push him onto the bed, he is quick to grab and flip me first. If I say I am going to spend my time watching some TV show that I really have no interest in watching, he'll tell me there will be a quiz. This man is very respectful. He is old-fashioned. He has some standards, such as that ladies shouldn't swear. Of course not.

4. Man's love

I do not think I have ever felt completely relaxed in the envelope of a man's love. Yet with this man, his strength beckons. He is more challenging in some ways then I am experienced at working with. Therefore, I find myself both attracted to his strength yet also wondering if I am betraying who I have grown to be – strong, independent, in control. And maybe control is the biggest flag of all. By relaxing into, and accepting, his male strength and position as a leader, who am I?

5. Adult woman taking instructions

In a relationship in which the man is clear about the fact that he will take charge when he wants, is it normal to feel a bit ‘small’? To be a capable, adult woman taking instructions (which he calls guidance) is odd. Yet, he is generally quite right in what he instructs. And in the end, I feel happier and usually achieve a goal. In the past, this type of man is one whom I might have been quick to get angry at (i.e. “you'll not tell me what to do!”, yet something about him and where I am in this place of my life, is very attracting to my mind. It's just such a different place to be for me. I am not familiar with it. Can you help me to understand it?

6. Comments

All I can say is that he sounds awesome, and I have experienced the same feelings that you are experiencing...with my late partner. It sounds as if you have found just the right match!